Not to toot my own horn, but I tend to be quite good at accepting feedback and and incorporating it into my work. I value feedback as an essential tool of collaborative work and as a means of ensuring that multiple voices and perspectives are heard and incorporated.
Of course, I’m sure we’ve all had those painful moments when we’ve gotten unsolicited feedback so late in the game that we end up facing a sleepless night on the eve of a big event or before a deadline. Oh, the wound is still fresh!
In any case, we can always try to be proactive about getting feedback. I like the AWARE model for asking for feedback that is highlighted in this talk:
Ask for feedback,Watch your emotions,Ask questions to clarify,Reach out for perspectives, andEngage your potential.
I particularly liked the description of why feedback can be difficult–as it lives in that tense spot between the need to learn and grow, and the need to be accepted just the way we are. Yet, becoming comfortable asking for and giving feedback helps to hone our growth mindset and helps us see feedback as a gift.